Five Words That Can Change How You Handle Any Problem

I had one of those days recently.
The kind where everything seemed urgent, loud, and in my face.
I could feel myself slipping into reaction mode - snapping, rushing, overthinking.

And then I remembered five little words that have saved me more times than I can count:

Pause. Accept. Understand. Strengthen. Evolve.

It’s not magic. It doesn’t make the problem disappear.
But it gives me a way to stand in the middle of the mess and still feel like me.

Pause
I literally stop. Sometimes it’s a deep breath. Sometimes I step into another room.
It’s that small, defiant act of saying: “I’m not going to let this moment decide for me.”

Accept
This part is hard. Accepting doesn’t mean I’m fine with it.
It just means I’m willing to admit: “This is where I am right now.”
No pretending. No fighting reality. Just… facing it.

Understand
Once the storm quiets a little, I can ask: “What’s really going on here?”
Sometimes it’s the situation in front of me. Sometimes it’s something old and familiar that got triggered.
The more honest I am with myself, the easier it is to deal with the real problem — not just the surface noise.

Strengthen
This is where I reach for whatever steadies me.
A walk. A journal page. Calling someone who reminds me who I am.
Even telling myself, “I’ve handled hard things before. I can take the next step now.”

Evolve
When it’s over, I don’t just move on. In the evening when I journal I ask: What did I learn here?
Sometimes the lesson is small, like “Don’t answer emails when I’m tired.”
Sometimes it’s bigger - a boundary I need to set, a truth I need to say out loud.

 
These five words are my compass.
They take me from reaction to intention, from chaos to something calmer.

If you want to try it for yourself, I’ve put together a free guide to the PAUSE Framework with simple exercises, language swaps, and tools to make it easier to use — especially when life is throwing everything at you.

You can download it here and keep it somewhere close.
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